Mothers & Fathers

generations, fathers
today are much more
involved in
childrearing.
¨ But mothers still do
most of the
childcare – even
moms who work.
so we're thinking about mothers versus fathers in American culture it is common to have mother and father dynamics we all know that there are plenty of single parent families but when we're comparing previous generations to current generations we know that fathers are much more involved in raising their children last year right So what historically might contribute to
changed quite a bit for sure earlier in the 1900 cultural shift right so kids are to be seen not heard so that's a very like arms length approach to the right and that had some merit especially prior to you know sterilization in terms of like medical equipment a lot of times infants and young children didn't survive so in that case there's some explanation for why these parents very early pretty good so this is my dad's kind of old picture but she was kind of a compared to other you know fathers or the family that I knew he's very involved in both mine and my brothers in childhood and my mom was very work sentence so she really likes to work she worked a lot she got her PhD while we were growing up so she was gone a lot and so our dad took on a lot of the roles giving us to school getting us breakfast made with teachers used to do my hair braided hair and put her in so he's kind of a baller and he's very like nurturing my mom on the other hand it's kind of got arms length and not super nurturing parent so we have kind of that opposite still do a lot of the childcare and child rearing even when they are working but regardless of whether you have you know a mom and a dad or both working professionals it's likely that your mom still did a lot of the childcare childbearing that the trend that we see even involve

LGBTQ Families

Children of LGBTQ parents are shaped by social
context and family processes.
¨ No differences in mental health or psychosocial
adjustment for children with lesbian or gay parents
compared to children of different-sex parents -
children in same-sex parent families fare as well as
children in different-sex parent families (Pollitt et al.,
2020)
Less research exists for children with transgender,
asexual, or bisexual parents
¨ Research also lacking in the inclusion of
intersectional identities (i.e., race, SES)
¨ Negative school climates have been linked to more
child victimization in lesbian/gay parent families
¤ Child-teacher relationships may amplify or mitigate the
impact of peer mistreatment (Goldberg, 2022)
another caveat for modern families is the inclusion of LGBTQ families so don't feel politically there's a lot of information they just spread around that for some reason children in these families aren't faring as well this is not true right in terms of the literature that we have there are no differences in mental health or psychosocial adjustment for children with lesbian or gay parents last research is going to exist or does exist currently or the other kind of sections or identities that this within the sunbrella right so when we're comparing these children with same-sex parents and children with different parents we're seeing that they fared equally well at least in terms of just general health related and well-being
research is driving up in warm water we also know that research is taking or not taking into account intersectional identities so when we have multiple identities that aren't as common right or are common but discriminated against this can definitely influence the outcomes of children in these families right specifically related to how other people treat you rather than how your parents treat you directly right so how does your school kind of react to your parents coming in right they can definitely depend on where what resources do you have or do you lack based on your socioeconomic status and your parents identity it's hard to compare here when we're just looking at maybe white lesbian moms versus multiple identity individuals who are raising children as a single parent or with multiple persons so the only thing that we're seeing at least currently in the literature again this is new literature compared t

Role of parents in middle childhood

Compared to early childhood, children spend
less time with parents
¤ And even less time with parent of the opposite
sex
¨ Coregulation
¤ Give-andtake
¤ More child
autonomy
¨ “Free-range”
and
“helicopter”
parents
how do our relationships with our parents change as we get older you know infants throughout early childhood they're very attached to our caregivers right require a lot of attention from them we require a lot of resources from them they are our sources shelter food and love typically trade safety but as we age we're moving further on into elementary school gearing up for little school we're gonna start to separate a little bit from our parents or we are going to start to crave some autonomy a little bit more and when that happens we start to spend less time with the family unit and we are going to spend even less time considerably with the parent of the opposite sex so if you have ever experienced a close bond if you're a daughter with your mother that's pretty typical or if you're a son very bonded with their father that's also very personal right if you just have a single parent right maybe your relationship is still just as close here we just don't see that kind of gender track but if we have a family with a mother and a father we do see a a trend here for that gender comparison
so here's a fun conversation that last class we kind of got into it so coregulation is important for a parent child relationship especially in childhood going into adolescence so this is the idea of give
what you want it's crazy yeah so here's a quick video about free range versus helicopter and I'll kind of take some answers after this our children were raising the generation we've got some tips from the remove you think your fingers or your shakes if you still have them Israeli this semesters you don't have anything

Siblings

¨ For many, the longest relationship you will ever have.
¨ Positive sibling relationships associated with positive
developmental outcomes.
¨ Siblings contribute to theory of mind development
¨ Differential treatment by parents (actual or perceived) can
contribute to sibling conflict.
¨ Sibling rivalry increases during middle
childhood
¤ Worse when
n Parent makes comparisons
n Siblings close in age
n Siblings are same sex
so with younger siblings right I sometimes I find out with my own brother orange five years apart but there are things that he just doesn't know how to do but you can call them you know that right he's like I would say it's like this modern approach like a little bit yeah yeah so tailor your approach I think is good because not every child is the same especially within a family a lot of different people and we get very expensive like yeah yeah yeah definitely so there are a lot of expectations with Denver based on you know who we are in terms of our family unit what is our role right so let's shift a little bit from family and
parenting to siblings which I'm sure some of you or if not all of you have at least one sibling somewhere someway I have one biological sibling that is my little brother Kyle we're about four and a half five years apart been pretty good buddies we did fight a lot growing up that yeah and then my family kind of diversified quite a bit with my parents remarried and then these are her two kids Brian and Maddie and I had other stepsiblings and my mom ended up splitting up from that family so I don't know I'm sure they're OK super close anyway so I don't think so you can count them as bio or stepsiblings or whatever so this has lot different from last class last class I had a ton of DMF but I do see some people who are answering in that range too which is super cool cool so i want you to turn to someone next to you we're gonna last longer than your relationship with your and so if you're not on you know good terms with your siblings now when you think about maybe you can but for those of you who do have those relationships right those are pretty large positive sibling relationships are associated with positive developmental outcomes so I would love of socialization here lots of with you know morality thinking about moral judgment and parents we also know that there's benefits in terms of like motor and siblings are goin