so when I first
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heard of
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the male and female gazes
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I was pretty confused
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as I didn't like men and women
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had this like
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biological difference
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in the way that we
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blink
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why do I look so shiny
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that ain't highlighter
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that's why
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but when I did more research into
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the male and female gaze
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literally everything in my life
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just
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made sense
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I finally found out why
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I was so obssessed with
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looking attractive to men
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but I also found out why
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I always felt ugly
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when they did not look at me
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and I also found out why
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I actually
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feel a little bit more beautiful
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in the context of
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when a woman looks at me
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and if you've been on Tiktok
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at all
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chances are you've come across
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these terms
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I run into this trend all the time
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whether it is
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actual discussion of the male and female gazes
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or just it kind of
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remolded into
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I was written by a man
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or I'm a man who was written by a woman
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and the conversations surrounding these two topics
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are bigger than ever
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and if some of you guys
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are looking at me like
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I have no idea what you're talking about
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don't worry
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I got you covered
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basically you know that one scene
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in transformers where
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megan fox is fixing a car
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she's like sweating
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has this perfect body
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the camera pans up and down
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and is filmed in the perspective of the main character
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that's played by
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that is the male gaze
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usually in many
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male dominated movies
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we see this shot
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the shot of the female interests
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body being dismembered
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and shot up close for the pleasure
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of the male audience
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this results in
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women in the real world
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feeling the need to be sexy 24/7
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and at the same time
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failing to do so
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there is however
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a counterpart to this
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which is
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the female gaze
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however this is a bit harder to define
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many people think
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the female gaze is just
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the opposite of the male gaze
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so instead of the disembodying female body parts
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it's just male body parts being dismembered
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for the female pleasure
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a good example of this would be
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but the female gaze is a lot more complicated than that
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a female gaze pressures women
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to perform feminity 24/7 as well
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and although
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many of you
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clicked on this video
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to hear me talk about how
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only the male gaze is toxic
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I'm sorry to inform you but
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both are problematic
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this is gonna be
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another
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long video
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so grab some tea
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grab a blanket
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or turn on your AC
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because it is
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the end of day's type of hot out here
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like this is not normal
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you know I got octavian here with me
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but you'all know the drill
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I gotta
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pay my bills
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so here's a word from our sponsor
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look how pretty my braids are
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pippy longstocking who
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when it comes to writing
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the male protagonist
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is often
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strong and confident, capable
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and then
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the female in the story
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is kind of there to just
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be there
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female characters
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are often there
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to be the object of desire
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by the love interest
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but they're also there
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to be the object of desire
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for the audience
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in filming
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the male gaze is basically
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the perspective of the camera
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it lingers over the female body
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in ways meant to
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titilate the eyeballs of the men watching
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the camera
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basically films
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the woman in disembodied parts
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which dehumanizes her
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if that doesn't sound familiar quite yet
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let me give you some examples
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some examples of the male gazes include
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women wearing tight inappropriate clothing
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while
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male counterparts
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are appropriately dressed
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for the occasion
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framing women
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so that their cleavage
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is always in frame
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and finally
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using the female body as a prop
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and there are a lot of movies that do this
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such as
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like they all fall under the trope of
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ugly funny guy
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has very suspicously hot wife
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and the male gaze isn't only in movies
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it's also
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extremely embedded into
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video games
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gaming mechanics make it so that
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she's always in front of you
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so you can see her butt
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what does catwoman spot
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have to do with
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batman's dead parents
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you know what i mean
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the male gaze
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is also
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really big
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in music videos
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I don't even think
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I have to
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dig too deep into like
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this category of male gaze
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because
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anyone who's seen
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a male rapper music video
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y'all know exactly
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what I'm talking about
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very often
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in music videos
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women are hyper-sexualized
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they're meant to show off his
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alpha male status
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as well as
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his wealth
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women are used as well as props
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in these music videos
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the only man you'd ever catch me being a prop for
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is my man's kvin
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